Conjunction Junction...

i have to admit that this morning when i googled, "Conjunction Junction" was the first time i've actually watched this video - but i've thought the phrase a lot, "conjunction junction, what's your function?"



one of the things i've learned in the past few months is that i've been using the wrong conjunction for a long time...i've been seeing things/situations as "or" - either/or...and in reality much more often "and" is a much better conjunction.

using the right conjunction has helped move my heart and mind into a much better place. using "and" helps me name things rightly.

this is good and hard.
this is disappointing and overwhelming and i am so excited about it.
this is not exactly what i want and i think it's the right choice.
life is chaotic and there is new growth and new life all around
i'm tired and so are you....and neither of our experiences is more important than the other.
my heart is heavy and i am at peace.
i am grieving and there is joy
i doubt and i have faith.
the work is not finished and it is time to rest

"or" forces us to choose.
either i am sad or i'm excited - it's a lie...i don't have to choose. i can be both
either that season was hard or valuable...a lie - again...it's both...the hardness brought out growth and transformation
either things are easy or they're right...NO! hard and right go together too.

"or" forces us into a corner.

so i'm working on using the right conjunction.

and

there's plenty of room at the table, plenty of room in relationship for both. for and.
yes, it requires intentionality. and honestly. and vulnerability.

 i'm learning that "and" is a much better conjunction in my life these days.

and sometimes your friend gives you the perfect mug to remind you of what's been going on in your heart...cause she knows that awesome/meaningful drink-ware is  one of your love languages :)